Saturday, 28 March 2009

Free help for your sleepless nights AND stress in this crazy times


HeartMath is offering a free webinar:  Solutions for Sleeplessness Caused by Today’s Stress, with Deborah Rozman, Ph.D.

Click HERE for registration information.

And don't forget about HeartMath's free "De-stress kit for changing times."   Click HERE to obtain that.

Great tools, great company, great price (free) . . .

Friday, 27 March 2009

Find the field-



"Out beyond ideas of rightdoing and wrongdoing there is a field.  I will meet you there."
Rumi

Woke up to this quote this morning (thank you HeartMath for my lovely daily quotes with their beautiful photographs).

Now I can't get the old soul song out of my head, "I know a place . . . I'll take you there . . ."

That field.

Where is it?

If you build it, will they come?


Thursday, 26 March 2009

MOMSthatROCK! Productions: Concerts for a Cause-- video diary #!

Check out the progress of MOMSthatROCK! Productions with our first installment of our video diary!

Wednesday, 25 March 2009

It's always something . . .


Have you ever found yourself going through life and saying: "when (fill in the blank) happens, life is going to be so much easier (or I'll feel complete or I'll have achieved nirvana).

Of course you have.  

We all have.  

I'm convinced that it is a inherent homosapien survival mechanism and a developmental task that we all experience to a greater or lesser extent.  

There are some positives that can come of this mindset.  After all, it does motivate one to achieve a goal if one feels that they will find a perpetual state of bliss by meeting said goal.  

Many folks have felt: when I find the "perfect" partner or when I have a baby or when we have the "perfect" house . . . THEN I will have "arrived" to my life and it will be smooth sailing from here on out.

The problem with this mindset is that we are not living our current life if we continually have an eye on what we think it is that will mean perfection to us in the future. 

Many of us that have reached a certain age have accepted the realization that there is NO external event in our life that will bring us inner peace.  And we've found that out by achieving goals  and accomplishments  only to realize that although these achievements can feel absolutely wonderful-- there will ALWAYS be something else that comes up that we consider a MUST do to continue to achieve optimal living.

So when you are getting bogged down with external expectations that you have for yourself-- a perfect yard, a promotion at work, the perfect partner-- let that be your reminder to look within and explore the only thing you are ultimately in control of YOU.

Do you live your life with a sense of peace and calm?  

Do you choose love to be the force that steers your way?  

Do you refrain from judging others and practice kindness with yourself as well?  

Do you live each day-- One Day At A Time or even one minute at a time-- in an effort to make the most of every day you are given?

While it is perfectly admirable to have goals and aspirations, we must remember ACHIEVING and truly LIVING are two different things. 

You can have a WONDER-FULL life without accomplishing everything on your (or someone else's) list of proposed achievements; but you will have much greater success with your achievements if you are truly living your life.

And if you find yourself stressing about that goal you feel like you are long overdue, gently remind yourself that even when/if you achieve that goal: there will always be something else that comes up on your list of things to do.  

It is simply the way we are wired.   

Kindly recognize and embrace your tendency to "want,"  recall that your worth comes from within-- not your outward achievements-- appreciate yourself, live with love and keep moving in a positive direction: ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Friday, 20 March 2009

the word of the week: Dissonance

These are confusing days for the good ole USA.  

The word that comes to mind is dissonance: a tension or clash resulting from the combination of disharmonious or unsuitable elements.

On your way out to go shopping and eat you are listening to news reports about the devastating collapse of the economy.  You get to the restaurant and there is a long wait for a seat.  You look around wondering, is everyone hurting as bad as the reports make it sound???

You hear that the there are even more economic woes to come, but you notice that flights are cheap and you still have the money you saved for vacation and feel fairly secure at the moment: to book or not to book.  Is it okay to enjoy myself in the midst of others' devastation?
 
You have taken a huge hit with the economic collapse, maybe losing your job or your investment portfolio but you are surrounded by folks that appear relatively unscathed and are going about business as usual.  Why are there such extremes, you wonder.

Americans are walking around in a state of cognitive dissonance which is a perfect environment for anxiety and depression to take root.

Click HERE to read a poignant interview with Deepak Chopra on the current times and some realistic and helpful perspective.  

I hope you find it as meaningful as I did.





Sunday, 15 March 2009

To sleep or not to sleep . . .

As I am typing at 6:14 a.m., I would like to give you some pointers on one of my favorite subjects: sleep.

When assessing how folks that I am seeing are doing one of the first things I thoroughly question about is their sleep because inadequate sleep is a huge stressor to our body and mind.

If I get that occasional response of-- oh, I only get 4 hours a night and I'm good, my first question is: do you feel rested during the day?  If the answer is yes, I'm absolutely refreshed and can be active all day and do not doze off when sitting still and have great sleep quality for that time I'm less inclined to push the panic button.

More often than not, however, the answer is a resounding NO!  Occasionally there will be a qualified yes-- I'm fine unless I sit down, then I'm out like a light.  Then the answer gets changed to NO, they are not rested during the day.

So here are some pointers for the typical sleep issues and reestablishing sleep cycles that have been wacked out and some good sleep hygiene reminders for all of us:  

o No napping! Engage in some sort of activity if the desire to nap becomes overwhelming. If daytime sleepiness becomes impossible to ignore, limit naptime to a single nap of less than 1 hour, arising from the nap no later than 3 p.m.

o Set the alarm and get up at the same time every morning (before 9:00 a.m.) no matter how much, or little, sleep you had the previous night.

o Do not go to bed until tired or before 9:00 p.m.

o To fall asleep do the slow, deep, regular breathing counting backwards to yourself from 100 with each breath. This allows your body to relax, and blocks out stressful thoughts. Do not rush this process.

Here is a little secret:  practice that technique whether you have trouble falling asleep or not. Your mind-body will learn that when I do this, I go to sleep.   Then, IF you ever run into a period of insomnia later you will be able to call on this later.  It works!

o If you go to bed and are unable to sleep after 30 minutes, go to another room and engage in a relaxing activity, such as reading, until tired. Do not fall asleep in another room. Return to bed only when you are sleepy.

o Keep bedroom as dark and quiet as possible.  You want your bedroom to be a sleep haven that gives your mind and body the message: when I am in here and lying down for sleep: I Sleep.

Therefore:  The bed and bedroom are for sleeping and intimacy only.

o Clear bedroom of all distractions: no TV, computer, stereo, etc.  You make think "I HAVE to have the TV or radio on to sleep."  What you do not realize is that every time there is a change in a song or a commercial or a laugh track your body is brought out of the restorative sleep stage-- even if you do not fully awaken.

o Use background noise such as a fan or white noise maker if you have a history of awakening easily.  Many folks have what I call "mommy ear." You sleep with one ear open to protect the household and when you hear a creak or snap or crackle or pop it arouses you.

o No caffeine after 12 noon; consider totally eliminating caffeine from diet.

o Get your exercise in before 5:00 p.m. It would be best to do your regular exercise routine in the mornings.

o Keep a note pad and pen by your bed. If a thought occurs to you that you feel is important and you must remember, write it down.  This technique has been like medicine for folks and eliminates the waking up to tell yourself, "oh I have to remember to do  . . . tomorrow."

o And, sorry to say, but alcohol may feel like it lulls you to sleep but it is horrible for sleep and keeps you from reaching the level of restorative sleep you need.

It is worth the effort to regulate your sleep and get it in the healthiest shape possible for optimal health and optimal cognitive and emotional functioning.

Yawn . . .

Thursday, 12 March 2009

The Mind: Poison or Medicine?


Frequently when I talk with individuals that have had a heart attack or a sudden onset of a cardiac illness, I am speaking with someone who is having some recurring fear-based thoughts: "I have only one heart-- what if something happens in my sleep,"  "is that sensation I am feeling another heart attack," "is it going to happen again," "I'm doomed for a premature death," etc.

It is important that we all remember some basic tips that I give these folks to improve their health and their day to day functioning.  I teach them about thought substitution, also known as cognitive restructuring.  

When you are having a fear-based or negative thought, notice it and ask yourself how you can restructure it in a more positive way such as: "my heart is strong and healthy," "I experience energy and health,"  even if you are not 100% sold on the belief.  

Today I talked to one of the cardiac rehab nurses and encouraged their staff to instruct their patients to repeat positive "heart healthy" messages while exercising because many get highly anxious as they start to feel their heart speed up or become sweaty with exercise.  

I've always begged my kids to do what I thought would be a phenomenal Science Project in school.  Go to the track team and time runners running the same distance while repeating to themselves, "I am slow and heavy," then time them while saying "I am quick and light."  

Hmmmm.  What do you think the results would be?

Our minds are amazing tools for optimal health.  When you catch yourself worrying about your health, your weight, your stress level, or your loved one's well being, etc., note it and put another more realistic or positive thought in your brain so that it becomes trained to keep those negative thoughts out.  

The negative and fearful thoughts will drain your body of healing resources it needs for optimal health.  

Replacing those thoughts with your vision of optimal health or performance or coping will encourage your body to accept and adapt more healthy functioning.

The mind: poison or medicine--  it's your decision.


Monday, 9 March 2009

I DARE YOU to join our ROCKiNG effort~



In celebration of International Women's Day, singer/songwriter/musician Anna Fermin and I are announcing the birth of a bouncing baby-- MOMSthatROCK! Concerts for Cause.

Please click here to read the birth announcement for MOMSthatROCK!  

You can join this effort and participate in meaningful activism and while enjoying some righteous rocking out!

Email us at momsthatrock@me.com  to say- Hey I'm interested, keep me informed! and for a limited time you will receive an free Mp3 of MOMSthatROCK!'s phenomenal theme song: AWAKEN TO A NEW EARTH, written by Aaron Barber and Anna Fermin and performed by Anna Fermin (available on iTunes and CDBaby).

Hurry and get your free Mp3 for emailing us, turn up your volume, listen to Awaken to a New Earth (you will be moved), tell your friends to sign up at momsthatrock@me.com and be kept up to date of our news and concert schedule!


Sunday, 8 March 2009

I Dare You

I dare you . . .

A birth announcement is forthcoming tomorrow: International Women's Day.

I dare you to look back here and find read that announcement. . .

I dare you to enjoy the excitement of participating in global change . . .

I dare you to join the cause . . .

Acting locally for change globally . . .

til tomorrow . . .









The Girl Effect

Watch This Now. (please)

more to come . . .

Saturday, 7 March 2009

do you see what i see?



“Whether we name divine presence synchronicity, serendipity, or graced moment matters little. What matters is the reality that our hearts have been understood. Nothing is as real as a healthy dose of magic which restores our spirits."
~Nancy Long

Serendipity. . . intuition . . . vibes . . . coincidence . . . magic . . . miracles . . . synchronicity . . . grace . . .

These are all part of our everyday life if we only allow ourselves to be open to the experiences.   Many of us grew up programming ourselves to ignore our ability to see these magical messages we were receiving.

How many times have you been thinking of someone and the phone rings and it is them?  

Have you ever had the overwhelming knowledge that you would not be safe if you chose a certain path and then, in fact, found your "feeling" had kept you safe?

Do you pass moments of serendipity and synchronicity off as coincidence?

Sonia Choquette, a renowned author and articulate speaker with many years of studying people's natural psychic ability insists that being "psychic" isn't as woo-woo as many people have historically thought it was.  

Having abilities that label you gifted in this area come largely from your very heightened ability of acute observation.  A person that has great ability to observe everything going on in their surroundings and the nuances others bring to discussions or relationships are able to see and interpret observations on a different level than the casual observer.  

Sonia insists these skills can be nurtured in ourselves and in our children and we will be rewarded with a heightened ability to follow the path to our own greater good if we accept that we have these innate abilities rather than ignore them.

I heard Sonia speak and she recommended keeping a journal of all the coincidences and moments of intuition and serendipity that you experience.  Don't just pass it off when you press the elevator button and go stand in front of the elevator that just happens to open twenty seconds later.  Acknowledge that as your intuition being accurate.  

When the phone rings and you "know"who it is and you are right, take note of that instead of passing it off as coincidence.  

Notice those small moments of coincidence and certainly start giving more attention to those more momentous times your intuition steers the you in a meaningful direction.

As you collect these experiences, you will begin to recognize and believe that we all have a capability to see and sense much, much more than meets the eye.

Teach your children and yourself to trust their "uh-oh" feeling; nine times out of ten that feeling will keep you safe.  An excellent book: The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker does a great job articulating this concept.  TRUST YOUR GUT.  

Let yourself be open to the messages you get by having people and opportunities put before you that come seemingly out of nowhere.  They are there for a reason.

Trust in yourself to follow that dream that your heart has been telling you to pursue.  

Stop the negative self-talk and LISTEN.  

Your inner voice is made of a universal voice (i.e. chi, spirit, God, love, those gone before us . . .) and the culmination of the collective knowledge you have gathered that is unique to you; the more we fight that voice, the more conflicted we feel.

Trust yourself, follow your heart and be open when opportunity presents itself.  

The gifts are there for the taking~ not to be ignored.