Thursday, 31 March 2011

Love the One You're With

As I sit and look out of our windows that give a 180 degree view of the lake and watch the various species of water loving birds frolic and fly I am reminded of how incredibly blessed I have been.  What a gift to be able to wake up in the morning and watch the sun rise over the lake; to hear the birds and gulls cry and sing and the water lapping against the coastal rocks.  It truly can feel that I am at the ocean on any given day.  We have been incredibly blessed to have such a serene dwelling during our time here; I believe it is largely responsible for the piece of mind I can easily find during times of turbulence. Nature is medicine to me.

Of course when folks hear that we are moving to New Zealand there have been a few inquiring minds that want to know what we are getting away from?  Are you running from your work?  So you finally have to get away from those difficult people and situations in your life?

Absolutely not.  We are not running from anything, we are moving forward.  With my wonderful life-partner I could literally be anywhere and be content and he has proven with his perseverance during trying times that his inner peace is steadfast.   But when the universe calls you, in many ways, to make such a drastic change in your life and then your life situations validate that yes, this is a move that will be healthier for you~ body, mind and spirit~ you realize that there is a plan being constructed that is bigger than any individual.

My dear partner has been a provider, a healer and a nurturer his entire life.  People in his life do not realize that he is not super-human and that for the past 30 years he has been functioning at a pace that would put mere mortals six feet under.  Our bodies will only take that toll for so long and it is our responsibility to wake up and heed the messages our physical being is sending us or be that casualty on the treadmill.

My loving, providing husband has been such a positive role model for me and those around him.  As hard as people have tried to control his life and prove that there is no such thing as "enough" he has kept high spirits and a positive attitude with an almost endless supply of energy.  He has 6 biological children that he has never failed to provide 200% for in every way and 3 "bonus" children for whom he has modeled unconditional love, respect and an amazing work ethic.

But as we head into the gently downward sloping path of life it is wise to look in the mirror and heed the call to finally take care of the most important person in your life and the only person you can control: you.  Yesterday I lunched with a friend I hadn't seen in thirty years.  I still feel like that same 18 year old in spirit but the numbers don't lie, "when did we get old?" we both mused.

As they say, "denial ain't just a river in Egypt" and there does come a time that it is wise to not only look at your age and your developmental stage in life, but what your body~mind~spirit are telling you and heed the calls to adjust so that you can care for your holistic health appropriately.  We cannot provide nurturing and support to others if we are incapacitated by failing health or worse: dead.

Practice moments of silence frequently . . . preferably in nature and take off your parent hat, your worker-bee hat, your provider hat and listen to your body~mind on a regular basis.  The more you listen the more you will be told what you need to do to take care of the most important person in your life.

Love and care for the one you're with~ you.

Friday, 4 March 2011

Thursday's Thoughts- a bit of this and a bit of that

Today I have a couple of themes to address: Duality and Judgment.


This morning I woke up to my daily Om message in my inbox and it was on practicing non-judgment of others: TODAY.

Today also happened to be my first time ever attending traffic court; I had my first speeding ticket in decades (if not ever) and wanted to get supervision.

The court room was packed with representation from every demographic.  The interesting thing was that I wasn't really fighting an impulse to judge "them," I was wanting to judge "us" with a heavy emphasis on myselfAs I jokingly put on my Facebook status afterwards, "I felt dirty."  It was so interesting how all of my early years of trying to be a good little girl came flooding back to me.  Just like when I finally broke my run of straight A's and got my first B, I had similar feelings about this ticket.  Dang, I'm not going to be in this country long enough to earn my status back of regularly getting those safety citations in the mail.

I can hear my kids and other folks saying-- who cares???

And that leads me to contemplate internal motivation verses external motivation.  For some reason I have always been driven to do my best-- for myself.   I didn't like the idea of getting caught doing something stupid when I was in school (not that I didn't, but I flew under the radar for the most part).  Now, at 49,  I've gotten a concrete reminder that I still don't like the feeling of sitting with the other kids in the principal's office--even though many of them were/are my very best friends.  And I can no longer blame it on fear of execution by parental fire.

Yes, trouble makes me feel . . . dirty.


My intuitive body/energy worker kept getting messages regarding Duality as she worked on me yesterday, specifically in terms of pondering our upcoming life change and move to New Zealand.

Even today-- sitting in the principal's office again-- was a lesson on duality.

So I thought I'd try a little free writing to share with my writer's group tomorrow:

Duality of Going

to rise or fall
to stay or go
to go and go
and with going bring love's most bleeding love
to love for love
for love is all one has
to stretch across the oceans
the deepest depths
over fault lines
to not panic with a tremor of the earth
but know that the flutter of my heart
will travel to you
and my heart will be in your heart
and yours in mine
in life
in death
but most importantly
for it is always