Thursday, 31 March 2011

Love the One You're With

As I sit and look out of our windows that give a 180 degree view of the lake and watch the various species of water loving birds frolic and fly I am reminded of how incredibly blessed I have been.  What a gift to be able to wake up in the morning and watch the sun rise over the lake; to hear the birds and gulls cry and sing and the water lapping against the coastal rocks.  It truly can feel that I am at the ocean on any given day.  We have been incredibly blessed to have such a serene dwelling during our time here; I believe it is largely responsible for the piece of mind I can easily find during times of turbulence. Nature is medicine to me.

Of course when folks hear that we are moving to New Zealand there have been a few inquiring minds that want to know what we are getting away from?  Are you running from your work?  So you finally have to get away from those difficult people and situations in your life?

Absolutely not.  We are not running from anything, we are moving forward.  With my wonderful life-partner I could literally be anywhere and be content and he has proven with his perseverance during trying times that his inner peace is steadfast.   But when the universe calls you, in many ways, to make such a drastic change in your life and then your life situations validate that yes, this is a move that will be healthier for you~ body, mind and spirit~ you realize that there is a plan being constructed that is bigger than any individual.

My dear partner has been a provider, a healer and a nurturer his entire life.  People in his life do not realize that he is not super-human and that for the past 30 years he has been functioning at a pace that would put mere mortals six feet under.  Our bodies will only take that toll for so long and it is our responsibility to wake up and heed the messages our physical being is sending us or be that casualty on the treadmill.

My loving, providing husband has been such a positive role model for me and those around him.  As hard as people have tried to control his life and prove that there is no such thing as "enough" he has kept high spirits and a positive attitude with an almost endless supply of energy.  He has 6 biological children that he has never failed to provide 200% for in every way and 3 "bonus" children for whom he has modeled unconditional love, respect and an amazing work ethic.

But as we head into the gently downward sloping path of life it is wise to look in the mirror and heed the call to finally take care of the most important person in your life and the only person you can control: you.  Yesterday I lunched with a friend I hadn't seen in thirty years.  I still feel like that same 18 year old in spirit but the numbers don't lie, "when did we get old?" we both mused.

As they say, "denial ain't just a river in Egypt" and there does come a time that it is wise to not only look at your age and your developmental stage in life, but what your body~mind~spirit are telling you and heed the calls to adjust so that you can care for your holistic health appropriately.  We cannot provide nurturing and support to others if we are incapacitated by failing health or worse: dead.

Practice moments of silence frequently . . . preferably in nature and take off your parent hat, your worker-bee hat, your provider hat and listen to your body~mind on a regular basis.  The more you listen the more you will be told what you need to do to take care of the most important person in your life.

Love and care for the one you're with~ you.

1 comment:

  1. Becky,
    Thanks for that. I, too, have relocated (albeit temporarily)to New Zealand seeking balance. I write about our experiences here:
    Would love to connect in Whangarei after you're settled. Or visit us in the Bay of Plenty. (BTW, I went to grad school with Sarah A.)