Thursday, 28 August 2014

one second

in one second life can forever change its rhyme
a gunshot
an argument
wrong place
wrong time
paying with that even though it's not mine
i forgot
didn't look
skipped over some facts
now me and you and too many people
suffering for those acts
drove too fast
drove too drunk
thought the world wouldn't stop for me
it took just one second
life interrupted
for now
for eternity

---inspired by the news, life . . . and completing season four of breaking bad

Sunday, 17 August 2014

Eyes Wide Open

Caught this today-- with eyes wide open.
Poor Knights Island baptised by rainbow.
Life is full of transitions. 

Change. Moves. Births. Deaths. Illness. Hook-ups. Break-ups. 

And the much more subtle transitions.  

Our children starting a new school year or moving into adulthood and having children of their own, starting a new project, meeting new people.

Ageing.  Ours.  Our parents.  Our kids.  Our animals.



Challenges— physical, emotional, mental.

How we negotiate the inevitable transitional terrain, and the vulnerability it brings, determines the amount of fallout we and those around us feel.

Ignore it.  Deny it.  Then notice how your brain won’t turn off as you try to fall asleep at night.  Or how you occasionally feel your heart speeding up or skipping beats.  Or how your digestion is out of sorts.  Or the intermittent waves of panic.  Or increased irritability.

Survival doesn't have to be complex: the first step is living with eyes wide open.  

And heart wide open.

Imagine you and yours at peace and breathe evenly through your heart.



Share with others.

Acknowledge the transitions in your life instead of denying their existence and placing them on a subconscious shelf, because it is then that your transitional stress will insist on manifesting in less healthy or helpful ways.

And if you can’t talk easily to others, talk to yourself.  Fully acknowledge the life changes you are experiencing.  Consider writing about it in a private journal. Or a blog!  But most importantly, do not hide behind denial extremes of the “everything is fine” OR "there's just something wrong with me" variety.  

Talk to yourself like you would a beloved friend— why wouldn’t you feel stress right now— your child is struggling with peers at school,  you are exhausted from the bumpy bedtime routine, you are not sure about the stability of your workplace, and decisions are looming around how your family will cope best with your ageing parents.  

THIS is the stuff life is made of.  And it is also the stuff that can bring those that appear the strongest and best and brightest down.

Be human.  Accept your vulnerability.

Live with eyes wide open and fully acknowledge the amazing, messy, surprising, beautiful, and frequently painful transitions that make up Life.


Been there.  In the middle of doing that.

*** I highly recommend watching Brene Brown’s TedTalk on Vulnerability.  It’s a beautiful thing.